One of those things which gives value to survival

“Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art.... It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival.” 
― C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves

Thoroughly enjoyed the company of my secondary school classmates today.

The most painful experience

The end of a marriage is one of the most emotionally painful human experiences. Yes, I know. Divorce is not just a matter of the heart but an experience that impacts the whole person on a multitude of levels.

Seeing someone you truly care about going through the same emotions I experienced almost 3 decades ago is even more painful. I want to say to him, "Give yourself the time and space to heal and repair. You are not destroyed, just temporarily devastated, and the recovery will come with time". 

 

May all my loved ones be happy always 

After years apart

The good part about old friends, after years apart chasing our own dreams and living our own lives, is that we still have so many fond memories in common.

 

This too shall pass

One of my favorite sayings is “this too shall pass.” It has indeed served me well through life’s ups and downs.

“This too shall pass” is relevant in good times and in bad. When things are going your way, enjoy it because there will come a time when this changes. And when you’re going through a rough patch it would not hurt forever for you’ll eventually get through it and overcome the emotional upheavals over time, sooner than you realize.

 

Those who have me in their thoughts

This year I changed my approach for the hari raya celebration. Instead of sending out invitations I just waited for visitors. Those of my friends and relatives who have me in their thoughts will come and actually, those I think will come,came . he..hehe

Elder abuse awareness

I learnt something new today.  Apparently 15 June is UN's World Elder Abuse Awareness Day. And, research has shown that abuse of the elderly is on the rise, be it physical, social, emotional or financial abuse. Research also showed that older women over the age of 80 are most at risk and their own children are likely to be the perpetrators!

The advice given to the elderly is prevention and early intervention.  Anyone who thinks he could be at risk are advised to take the following measures:

• Appoint an independent attorney for financial matters
• Get independent advice
• Keep the will up-to-date
• Make loans legally binding
• If one moves in with family members or they move in with you, formally agree on your living arrangements, preferably in a documented  form. 

Something to ponder on!


Mmm...Who's abusing who? He..he..

 

Live beneath your means, return everything you borrow

So true!

When I die

Their life has become lonely

A bad case of lazy bones

I have been bitten by a bad case of the lazy bones.  I seem to go through  these episodes once  in a while, not reading as I  usually do, not even the newspapers, neglecting my assignments and not even bothering to write anything here.   I am hoping that this first step I am  making today will get me back on track.

Nothing has ever taken precedence over being a mother

Spent Mother's Day today at our favourite chicken farm.  Thoroughly enjoyed the company of the girls.

For me, nothing has ever taken precedence over being a mother and having a family.

 

My three children and daughter-in-law