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Sunday 25 December 2016
Thursday 1 December 2016
Monday 21 November 2016
Sunday 13 November 2016
善待暮年的自己
北京著名女作家杨绛於2016 年 5月高齡105 歲過世. 下面是她在103 歲時的一段鼓勵:
【善待暮年】
花開花謝,潮起潮落,不經意間我們正走向人生的暮年。
從呱呱墜地到兩鬢染霜,歲月的行囊裡装滿了酸甜苦辣。接下來,在夕陽的路上能走多遠,取决於我們的體魄和心態。
在曾經的歲月裡,每個人都會有大小不一的光環,但這光環已是“過去式”。當光環退去,誰都是柴米油鹽,誰都是一介布衣。
“我們曾如此渴望命運的波瀾,到最後才發現:人生最曼妙的風景,竟是内心的淡定與從容。
我們曾如此期望外界的認可,到最後才知道,世界是自己的,與他人毫無關係。”
今天,我們生活的國度裡,銀髮浪潮席卷而來,老年人的比例越來越高,年輕人的負擔越来越重。老年朋友們,何不錯開尖峰時間出行,给公共交通緩解壓力,與年輕人相互理解、相互關懷、相互尊重,何樂而不為?
不要满懷焦灼期待子女常回家看看。子女們有各自的生活和事業,他們像永不停歇的陀螺一樣,上有老下有小,“老”是“夕陽”,“小”是“朝陽”。“朝陽”總比“夕陽”更令人關注和憧憬,這是動物繁衍生息的法則,是規律,誰也不能違背。記住,年輕人永遠比老年人忙。
人生,夫妻也好,母女父子也罷,不管是怎樣的水乳交融、心心相繫,每個人都是生命的獨立個體,因此,我們要學會在孤獨的時候给自己安慰,在寂寞的時候给自己温暖。
老要有老的風骨,老要有老的優雅,正如春華秋實,四季輪迴,各有風采。
暮年是美好生活的開始,是一種從容、恬闊、悠哉遊哉的状態。願我們保持一顆寧静的心,少些期盼、多些寬容,寵辱不驚、去h 留無礙,微笑向前,善待暮年的自己。
Monday 7 November 2016
Sunday 6 November 2016
Saturday 29 October 2016
Sunday 16 October 2016
Saturday 1 October 2016
When someone you love is hurting
You know they are hurting and it cuts you into a million pieces.
You want to do everything. You’ll do anything. You will do whatever is in your power to make them stop hurting but you feel like you can do nothing.
Watching people you love suffer is not just painful. It takes everything out of you. You’re so distraught that you can actually feel some physical side effects. It makes you feel unwell and always under the weather.
How is it possible that you feel the hurt just as much as them? You are not experiencing what they’re experiencing, but you also hurt when they hurt.
Friday 9 September 2016
Tuesday 6 September 2016
Wednesday 24 August 2016
I love purple
With your personality color purple you inspire others with your creative thinking and your ability to deal positively with adversity.
Monday 22 August 2016
Thursday 11 August 2016
One of those things which gives value to survival
“Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art.... It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival.”
― C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves
Thoroughly enjoyed the company of my secondary school classmates today.
― C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves
Thoroughly enjoyed the company of my secondary school classmates today.
Tuesday 9 August 2016
The most painful experience
The end of a marriage is one of the most emotionally painful human experiences. Yes, I know. Divorce is not just a matter of the heart but an experience that impacts the whole person on a multitude of levels.
Seeing someone you truly care about going through the same emotions I experienced almost 3 decades ago is even more painful. I want to say to him, "Give yourself the time and space to heal and repair. You are not destroyed, just temporarily devastated, and the recovery will come with time".
Monday 25 July 2016
Saturday 23 July 2016
This too shall pass
One of my favorite sayings is “this too shall pass.” It has indeed served me well through life’s ups and downs.
“This too shall pass” is relevant in good times and in bad. When things are going your way, enjoy it because there will come a time when this changes. And when you’re going through a rough patch it would not hurt forever for you’ll eventually get through it and overcome the emotional upheavals over time, sooner than you realize.
“This too shall pass” is relevant in good times and in bad. When things are going your way, enjoy it because there will come a time when this changes. And when you’re going through a rough patch it would not hurt forever for you’ll eventually get through it and overcome the emotional upheavals over time, sooner than you realize.
Thursday 7 July 2016
Sunday 26 June 2016
Elder abuse awareness
I learnt something new today. Apparently 15 June is UN's World Elder Abuse Awareness Day. And, research has shown that abuse of the elderly is on the rise, be it physical, social, emotional or financial abuse. Research also showed that older women over the age of 80 are most at risk and their own children are likely to be the perpetrators!
The advice given to the elderly is prevention and early intervention. Anyone who thinks he could be at risk are advised to take the following measures:
The advice given to the elderly is prevention and early intervention. Anyone who thinks he could be at risk are advised to take the following measures:
- Appoint an independent attorney for financial matters
- Get independent advice
- Keep the will up-to-date
- Make loans legally binding
- If one moves in with family members or they move in with you, formally agree on your living arrangements, preferably in a documented form.
Mmm...Who's abusing who? He..he.. |
Friday 24 June 2016
Wednesday 22 June 2016
Tuesday 14 June 2016
Thursday 2 June 2016
A bad case of lazy bones
I have been bitten by a bad case of the lazy bones. I seem to go through these episodes once in a while, not reading as I usually do, not even the newspapers, neglecting my assignments and not even bothering to write anything here. I am hoping that this first step I am making today will get me back on track.
Sunday 8 May 2016
Thursday 28 April 2016
Monday 18 April 2016
Why some people are hot tempered?
I did a quick search. Some of the reasons why some people are hot tempered?
They are insecure
Their anger gauge is already full
They are impatient
They are dissatisfied with their lives
What is the best way to deal with some one like that? I am still trying to figure it out. In the meantime I'll just try to avoid them?
Friday 15 April 2016
Like the flower, the past cannot be trapped that way
“Like a flower pressed flat and dried, we try to hold it still and say, this is exactly how it was the day I first saw it. But like the flower, the past cannot be trapped that way. It loses its fragrance and and its vitality, its fragility becomes brittleness and its colors fade. And when next you look on the flower, you know that it is not at all what you sought to capture, that that moment has fled forever.”
― Robin Hobb, Fool's Errand
― Robin Hobb, Fool's Errand
Captured at its best moment |
Capturing this moment before it fades away |
Thursday 7 April 2016
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